Published On: Fri, Jan 12th, 2018

Don’t Let Your Mistakes Rule Your Life

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As much as many of us would love to think differently, human beings are imperfect by nature. We’re all just as likely as each other to make mistakes and mess up a lot of the time. However, the point where that changes from understandable to deeply problematic is when those mistakes start to rule over your life. This can take a couple of forms, whether that’s by keeping you in a state of fear because of past mistakes, or because you refuse to adjust your behaviour and keep making them over and over again. Breaking out of these cycles isn’t easy, but it can be done. With that in mind, here are a few things that you can do to stop letting your mistakes rule your life.


Atone for your actions

It’s ridiculous just how hard so many people find the simple act of apologising for something. In the news recently we have seen dozens of occasions of people coming out and “apologising” for things that they’ve done without ever actually bothering to say sorry. These “apologies” are little more than thinly veiled excuses and attempts to paint themselves as the victims. If you’ve made mistakes, then you need to apologise sincerely and never attempt to make excuses for your behaviour. A genuine and honest atonement for your actions is the only way you can actually take that first step towards moving forward.


Seek out help

The reality is that the mistakes that you’ve made might go beyond simply needing to apologise and the move on. Your mistakes might be serious enough that you need to reach out to a professional for help and support. Whether that takes the form of a therapist, criminal defense attorney, doctor, or anything else, there’s no shame in needing the support of a professional. Not only that but it’s a good idea, to be honest about the help that you need with the people in your life as well. There are few things more unpleasant than trying to move forward from a mistake without the support of your family and friends.


Make genuine changes

Of course, just because someone shows genuine remorse for their actions, that isn’t really good enough by itself. If you regret your mistakes but then don’t actually make any real changes in your life to reflect that, then it’s not going to mean a thing. You need to make sure that you’re moving forward into the future by making some genuine, positive changes in your life. Whether that’s in terms of your behaviour or the kinds of situations you find yourself in, you need to be sure that you’re making adjustments in your life that will make it more positive for yourself and everyone in it.

There is nothing good about spending all of your time feeling wretched and guilty because of a past mistake. After all, there’s nothing you can do to change the fact that it happens, so the only thing you can do is to move forward in a positive way. It’s incredibly important that you think about your mistakes in terms of things that you can do to move forward from them in the healthiest and most productive way possible.